This is my “depressed stance.” When you’re depressed, it makes a lot of difference how you stand. The worst thing you can do is straighten up and hold your head high because then you’ll start to feel better. If you’re going to get any joy out of being depressed, you’ve got to stand like this. Charlie Brown

I love the above quote, it’s so true! If you begin to notice how you hold your body, how you’re breathing and what you’re doing with your face when feeling certain emotions.Then test changing your physiology, how you’re standing or sitting, breathing, and also notice how your face feels, whether it is taught or relaxed and anything else about your face that you maybe doing. You will find that you can influence how you experience yourself and explore this.

Try smiling and breathing slightly deeper into your stomach, letting your stomach rise with each inhale, stop the internal mind chatter, just clear your mind for a few moments, explore relaxing your shoulders down and hands, notice the temperature of the air on your hands, be aware of the contact of your feet inside your shoes on the floor and any noises you may hear in the distance. Imagine what your energy is like, the stillness or direction of movement of your energy now, and become aware of any changes you now experience in your being.

Emotions are linked to remembered events in our sub-conscious that we filter into our memory banks, they become stored stories, events happen and more stories are stored, sometimes images with certain emotions stacked and programmed into neurological pathways, these programmes are not only stored in our minds but throughout our entire body. We have cell memory.

The important part to know is that we can build new neurological pathways, we can influence our ongoing emotions. The first step is this AWARENESS, the next step is learning to STOP certain patterns running and the next is CHOICE / CHANGE. And continue to repeat these new choices until they too become automatic, as these new neurological pathways become en-grained habitual ways of being.

There is more and this is what I facilitate.

Sometimes we can feel all consumed in our emotions, as we run movies in our minds of what happened in events belonging to the past or could possibly happen in the future… It is well worth stopping regularly and checking in with yourself – become aware of the frequent ‘patterns’ you’re running automatically. Notice where you’re predominant focus is… Is it past oriented? How does that make you feel? What kind of events are you mulling over?

Are you always striving for something in the future? Do you acknowledge when you obtain something you’ve been striving for and give yourself a pat on the back, celebrating the small or large milestones you’ve reached? Or do you speed on through creating something else you ‘must do’?

Make a new habit of noticing the impact to your feelings that come hand in hand with this kind of thinking…

Where can you now place your attention to really make a difference to the quality of life you experience?

State Management is fantastic when facilitated by a Coach so you can identify how you do what you do when you’re in a resourceful emotional state so you can do it more of the time. Each person is unique so anchoring a really positive experience will be unique to each individual, once achieved this positive anchor can be used time and time again, so you can choose how you want to be and feel in any given situation.