Do you know what you’re here for? Yes, I’m asking the big question… Do you feel that you are on track in life in a way that feels empowering and good whilst contributing in a positive way to others?

What percentage of your days and week do you spend enjoying the experience of being you, whether that be in doing something or simply being?

How much of your day do you drop the mental mind chatter and stop polluting your present moment with worries and concerns?

Is there conflict in your life? Do you feel a soul connection to your partner but sense there is room for a deeper connection? Do you sense that you may well be able to discover another way of being that no matter what was said to you it wouldn’t matter because you know yourself and you just keep sending unconditional love?

What rituals and practice do you put into developing yourself and how you really want to be, what you would like to achieve? Do you meditate? What hobbies do you have or would like to have, that will add value to your life?

What percentage of your focus is based on what you can do v’s what you tell yourself you can’t do? Do you ever weigh up your emotions throughout the day, are you emanating more positive states of being or not? Do you exert more energy over habitual patterns of behaviour or in setting up a very clear image and positive intent in how and where you are heading in your life? Do you wonder about what you seem to attract and manifest in your life? Do you sense that you could well be influencing this? What do you think might happen to your results and ultimately your destiny in terms of projecting a positive mind set of acceptance and gratitude whilst taking action?

When you look back at this all (your life) from some distant future point… What advice would you give you now?

As a personal growth enthusiast I simply love supporting people in manifesting a life of clarity. When we fully let go of self sabotage behaviours and develop a healthy mindset we are very powerful beings – master manifestors! Personal development is assisted in leaps and bounds in a single 2 hours session of NLP combined with Advanced Hypnotherapy and the 3-4 hour session of Quantum Healing Hypnosis. In your session we can provide the space and energy to enable you to make the changes you really desire. If you are unsure as to what you really want – that too is a fantastic starting point for getting clear as your consciousness expands. The components of success are desire, belief and expectancy… I look forward to supporting you.

 

When a relationship forms, the union of two different energies that have never before existed come together. Vast experience and learning happens in this journey, ways of communication are explored and the results of this communication are experienced and felt, our paths may seem to take a different course.

There are many levels of communication.

When you feel something and do not express it to your partner, they feel it anyway. When you speak your truth, this gives your partner the opportunity to understand and you can learn your partner’s perspective. Communication happens without words as much as with words.  Take interest in your partner and ask questions, be truly inquisitive as opposed to ignoring or accusing (as you do this what is your body language saying as you speak to your partner and what tone do you use?). Separate what you assume are facts and those that might not be and clarify.

The most powerful place to begin the journey of awareness in relationships is from within. The ability to recognise and assure that your emotional state and energies produce the experience you desire. If this is not the case, I can show you how to empower yourself to change this.

More and more people are waking up to the fact that we are similar to human transmission towers and the focus and energy we create internally is sent out is amplified and returns, this awareness is very empowering. We tend to get what we focus on. It is good practice to notice what you are focussed on so you can realise what you are producing, you can then make a choice whether to do more of the same. If what you are doing is not working – do something else whilst remaining true to yourself.

To add richness to your relationships, understanding the psychology of yourself and your partner are key to creating loving dynamics together.

Further to this, we know that we have 5 senses; we can see things (visual), hear things (auditory), feel things (kinaesthetic), smell things (olfactory) and taste things (gustatory). Yes? Neuro Linguistic Programming has simply named these senses our Representational Systems, these help us to make sense of the world as our senses code our memories and govern our capabilities and beliefs. We usually use 2 representational systems slightly more than the others, e.g. You could be primarily ‘visual’ (imagine in pictures) and you maybe secondary ‘kinaesthetic’ (you get a feeling about things, may need to touch). What I am leading you to with this is that your understanding of your internal world leads to the realisation that you can change it, as what we hold within becomes our experience and is most definitely felt by those around us. When you can identify which representational systems your partner uses predominantly, you can learn ways to reach them emotionally on a level they feel appreciated and cared for, you can lead the way and they might even want to choose to take more of an interest in you too. How you code these representational system is what we call submodalities, coaching around submodalities is very enlightening. To learn the ability to change the way we feel depends upon our ability to change our submodalities.

Interestingly expanding on the representational systems, my studies in Energy Medicine highlight four sensory system stress modes which have interpersonal perils in each of the styles, that once understood can lead to greater understanding and empathy for your partner and yourself, I’ve discovered this to be true. The detail and the real learning is discovered in the experience. This knowledge is empowering for individuals and satisfying for me and I find that I’m facilitating positive change with connection more and more for individuals remaining in and strengthening their relationships, and also those embracing change as they make their transition and move out of a relationship.

You cannot change anybody except yourself and you can influence with integrity. The most empowering relationships will start with you. Are you building loving understanding and connections in your relationships?

As Carrie Bradshaw in ‘Sex and the City’ quoted;

“Later that day I got to thinking about relationships. There are those that open you up to something new and exotic, those that are old and familiar, those that bring up lots of questions, those that bring you somewhere unexpected, those that bring you far from where you started, and those that bring you back. But the most exciting, challenging and significant relationship of all is the one you have with yourself. And if you can find someone to love the you – you love, well, that’s just fabulous.”


http://www.conscious.tv/psychology.html My TV interview by Alex Howard for Conscious TV offering an insight to my personal journey, the impact of beliefs, family illness, bereavement, and personal and spiritual development.

The aim is to offer my example of what worked for me and hopefully offer ideas to anyone looking to create a more fulfilling life. I explain how I learnt to trust my instincts and follow my passion with self belief gained along the way that I can make a difference and in turn this has created a life where I feel I have a purpose.

Positive change can happen when following what feels right and taking small steps towards what you would really like to have happen.

What would it be like to observe seeming insults as interesting events? Or be energised and motivated by anger instead of withdrawing…?

Do you feel stressed, worried or anxious? We know this can lead to physical and emotional problems, so schedule time every day to stop, rest & practice meditation, walks & self hypnosis. Practice visualising or imagining a peaceful scene, take a few long deep belly breaths and notice the release of any tension as you go back to the scene. Practice this regularly.

Know you can get in touch easily with a professional if you continue to experience yourself and your life in anyway other than the way you desire. I can help you process what has been going on for you, come to your own realisations and give you the tools to create how you really want to be. You can get back on track as you off load past habitual ways of thinking and feeling and develop behaviours of success.

Empowerment is in the choices we make.

State Management is fantastic when facilitated by a Coach so you can identify how you do what you do when you’re in a resourceful emotional state so you can do it more of the time. Each person is unique so anchoring a really positive experience will be unique to each individual, once achieved this positive anchor can be used time and time again, so you can choose how you want to be and feel in any given situation.

I have begun Coaching within the largest UK residential lettings corporation. The Managing Director and the Lettings Director are forward thinking and proactive, they realise the benefits of supporting their staff during company restructuring and developing all involved from those working at the forefront of the corporation, those behind the scenes and right the way through to head office. I am looking forward to the beginning of July when I will begin NLP Training there.