For many as we approach Christmas thoughts of buying gifts and entertaining the family stirs up all sorts of emotion.
What are your predominant thoughts and beliefs around Xmas?
What does Xmas means to you?
What aspect are you mainly focussed on: Spirituality? Change? Location? People you’re sharing with? Conversations? Money? Food? Making someone happy? Making yourself happy? What you can do? What you can’t do?
What are your feelings towards Christmas?
Do you choose to change anything this year?
Excitement laced with concerns around money is something many of us think about around this time, which can almost tarnish really enjoying the present.
So maybe we can remind ourselves of what is really important. Money basically is energy as everything is. When reading through a course I took with Dan Millman he states the following on this subject which I will share with you;
“As with any form of energy, money needs to move, to be channeled wisely and well. Like any form of energy, money is morally neutral. It can serve the highest and the lowest. Money doesn’t care who has it; it has no prejudices. As energy, money only amplifies whoever and whatever you are. Money cannot buy security, because security is a psychological state. To some, it means having enough food to eat, clothing on your back, a shelter over your head, or someone who loves you. To others, security requires millions of dollars in tax-free accounts around the world. As Epictetus reminded us all, “Contentment consists not of great wealth, but in few wants.” The best things in life – the sun in the morning and the moon at night – are free.”
We can re-route our maps of reality in the world around anything including what is important. The first step is to re-evaluate beliefs and values. It’s no use buying more than you can afford with a belief that it will please somebody else, if you are going to feel the burden of worry in how to pay for it – instead the best Christmas can be had by all when you feel light and free of concerns and just be a gift yourself, knowing you are enough.
How do you really want to experience this special time – what is most important to you?
Change what you can and accept what you can’t. Look for the good and you will find it and see beauty in all. Focussing on gratitude, contribution and love now is fulfilling. What more do you want?
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In the words of Lao Tzu: ”In dwelling, live close to the ground. In thinking, keep to the simple. In conflict, be fair and generous. In governing, don’t try to control. In work, do what you enjoy. In family life, be completely present.”
Good advice sometimes isn’t enough though. It’s not about what we know, but about what we actually do every day. This is how we achieve goals, however the fuel to get us there is of a higher grade when we take time “to do some~ being still every day…” Clear the mind to establish the benefits that come hand in hand with accessing the alpha brain wave levels while resting and taking a break from the constant drone of the inner mind chatter for at least a few minutes morning and night in meditation or self hypnosis.
Many pay too much attention to inner dialogue (head stuff going on) that seems to keep spewing forth at speed, almost being controlled by these fast thoughts, working themselves up into anxiety states of being and going too fast to acknowledge the small milestones made along the way.
It is good practice to take a step back, become the observer instead of being controlled by your thoughts. You may call taking a few moments to let go, slow down and clear your mind meditation or even contemplation, there are many methods all so good for health and wellbeing. There are additional enjoyable ways that help us further like yoga which is a moving meditation, walking in nature grounds us and clears the mind, swimming in the sea and most importantly breathing deeply from the stomach enables the parasympathetic nervous system do it’s healing and balancing work.
Some seem to be fearful of their own thoughts and feelings and try to ignore them and some people try to drown out their inner thoughts by maintaining background noise like TV and Radio, but the Subconscious will never, never be ignored. There is a big difference between the smaller part of the brain the conscious mind chatter where the inner critic dwells, and the larger and far wiser Subconscious (seat of the emotions). When we speak of ‘heart felt intuition’ or our ‘gut instinct’ this is the Subconscious. There are consequences to not listening to the intuitive guidance the Subconscious works at giving you; things can start to go wrong, signals for change are pain signals or even seeming accidents and illness until we find the meaning. Suffice to say it is best to take time to resolve inner conflict or learn more about how to align yourself in your most effective way in your life by acknowledging your higher self that guides you through your instincts. If you would like to learn how and would like some support then please get in touch with Natalie.
Balance is key in life; a good mix of doing and being ~ taking positive steps to complete what you know you want to do and taking time to rest in daily meditation, the body needs to move and exercise that you enjoy, dance, music, loving and caring for others feels good including loving our pets. Give yourself a healthy dose of positivity by taking a break from the mental pressures of having and should have done so much, always remembering to enjoy the present moment because that is all there really is.
As Dr. Kenzo Futagil, M.D., who reached the century mark said: ”Eat less and chew well; ride less and walk often; have fewer clothes and launder often; worry less and work harder; waste less time and continue to learn; speak less and listen more; frown less and laugh more; complain less and appreciate more; take less and give more.”
*Take one slow deep breath into your stomach now… Feel your stomach rise then your chest, hold it for a few moments, just stop and clear your mind… Feel the temperature of the air on your face, hands the contact of your feet inside your shoes or on the floor… Now release the breath with a sigh… ~ you have already begun a beneficial practice, do this every hour and notice how calm, centred and clear you feel ~ this is how we get into the flow of alignment of intuition and joy.
When a relationship forms, the union of two different energies that have never before existed come together. Vast experience and learning happens in this journey, ways of communication are explored and the results of this communication are experienced and felt, our paths may seem to take a different course.
There are many levels of communication.
When you feel something and do not express it to your partner, they feel it anyway. When you speak your truth, this gives your partner the opportunity to understand and you can learn your partner’s perspective. Communication happens without words as much as with words. Take interest in your partner and ask questions, be truly inquisitive as opposed to ignoring or accusing (as you do this what is your body language saying as you speak to your partner and what tone do you use?). Separate what you assume are facts and those that might not be and clarify.
The most powerful place to begin the journey of awareness in relationships is from within. The ability to recognise and assure that your emotional state and energies produce the experience you desire. If this is not the case, I can show you how to empower yourself to change this.
More and more people are waking up to the fact that we are similar to human transmission towers and the focus and energy we create internally is sent out is amplified and returns, this awareness is very empowering. We tend to get what we focus on. It is good practice to notice what you are focussed on so you can realise what you are producing, you can then make a choice whether to do more of the same. If what you are doing is not working – do something else whilst remaining true to yourself.
To add richness to your relationships, understanding the psychology of yourself and your partner are key to creating loving dynamics together.
Further to this, we know that we have 5 senses; we can see things (visual), hear things (auditory), feel things (kinaesthetic), smell things (olfactory) and taste things (gustatory). Yes? Neuro Linguistic Programming has simply named these senses our Representational Systems, these help us to make sense of the world as our senses code our memories and govern our capabilities and beliefs. We usually use 2 representational systems slightly more than the others, e.g. You could be primarily ‘visual’ (imagine in pictures) and you maybe secondary ’kinaesthetic’ (you get a feeling about things, may need to touch). What I am leading you to with this is that your understanding of your internal world leads to the realisation that you can change it, as what we hold within becomes our experience and is most definitely felt by those around us. When you can identify which representational systems your partner uses predominantly, you can learn ways to reach them emotionally on a level they feel appreciated and cared for, you can lead the way and they might even want to choose to take more of an interest in you too. How you code these representational system is what we call submodalities, coaching around submodalities is very enlightening. To learn the ability to change the way we feel depends upon our ability to change our submodalities.
Interestingly expanding on the representational systems, my studies in Energy Medicine highlight four sensory system stress modes which have interpersonal perils in each of the styles, that once understood can lead to greater understanding and empathy for your partner and yourself, I’ve discovered this to be true. The detail and the real learning is discovered in the experience. This knowledge is empowering for individuals and satisfying for me and I find that I’m facilitating positive change with connection more and more for individuals remaining in and strengthening their relationships, and also those embracing change as they make their transition and move out of a relationship.
You cannot change anybody except yourself and you can influence with integrity. The most empowering relationships will start with you, that’s a fact.
As Carrie Bradshaw in ‘Sex and the City’ quoted;
“Later that day I got to thinking about relationships. There are those that open you up to something new and exotic, those that are old and familiar, those that bring up lots of questions, those that bring you somewhere unexpected, those that bring you far from where you started, and those that bring you back. But the most exciting, challenging and significant relationship of all is the one you have with yourself. And if you can find someone to love the you – you love, well, that’s just fabulous.”
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This is my “depressed stance.” When you’re depressed, it makes a lot of difference how you stand. The worst thing you can do is straighten up and hold your head high because then you’ll start to feel better. If you’re going to get any joy out of being depressed, you’ve got to stand like this. Charlie Brown
I love the above quote, it’s so true! If you begin to notice how you hold your body, how you’re breathing and what you’re doing with your face when feeling certain emotions.Then test changing your physiology, how you’re standing or sitting, breathing, and also notice how your face feels, whether it is taught or relaxed and anything else about your face that you maybe doing. You will find that you can influence how you experience yourself and explore this.
Try smiling and breathing slightly deeper into your stomach, letting your stomach rise with each inhale, stop the internal mind chatter, just clear your mind for a few moments, explore relaxing your shoulders down and hands, notice the temperature of the air on your hands, be aware of the contact of your feet inside your shoes on the floor and any noises you may hear in the distance. Imagine what your energy is like, the stillness or direction of movement of your energy now, and become aware of any changes you now experience in your being.
Emotions are linked to remembered events in our sub-conscious that we filter into our memory banks, they become stored stories, events happen and more stories are stored, sometimes images with certain emotions stacked and programmed into neurological pathways, these programmes are not only stored in our minds but throughout our entire body. We have cell memory.
The important part to know is that we can build new neurological pathways, we can influence our ongoing emotions. The first step is this AWARENESS, the next step is learning to STOP certain patterns running and the next is CHOICE / CHANGE. And continue to repeat these new choices until they too become automatic, as these new neurological pathways become en-grained habitual ways of being.
NLP, Coaching and Hypnotherapy provide the means and know how to make beneficial changes in a broad range of areas.
Many people have been seeking help with anxiety attacks and fear issues, I’ve been facilitating in making anxiety attacks and symptoms a thing of the past as the feedback received in helping people re-claim their control bringing calmness back into their lives has been achieved quickly. It is such a relief that anxiety does not have to be endured, it can be released.
Sometimes we can feel all consumed in our emotions, as we run movies in our minds of what happened in events belonging to the past or could possibly happen in the future… It is well worth stopping regularly and checking in with yourself – become aware of the frequent ‘patterns’ you’re running automatically. Notice where you’re predominant focus is… Is it past oriented? How does that make you feel? What kind of events are you mulling over?
Are you always striving for something in the future? Do you acknowledge when you obtain something you’ve been striving for and give yourself a pat on the back, celebrating the small or large milestones you’ve reached? Or do you speed on through creating something else you ‘must do’?
Make a new habit of noticing the impact to your feelings that come hand in hand with this kind of thinking…
Where can you now place your attention to really make a difference to the quality of life you experience?
http://www.conscious.tv/psychology.html My TV interview by Alex Howard for Conscious TV offering an insight to my personal journey, the impact of beliefs, family illness, bereavement, and personal and spiritual development.
The aim is to offer my example of what worked for me and hopefully offer ideas to anyone looking to create a more fulfilling life. I explain how I learnt to trust my instincts and follow my passion with self belief gained along the way that I can make a difference and in turn this has created a life where I feel I have a purpose.
Positive change can happen when following what feels right and taking small steps towards what you would really like to have happen.
What would it be like to observe seeming insults as interesting events? Or be energised and motivated by anger instead of withdrawing…?
Do you feel stressed, worried or anxious? We know this can lead to physical and emotional problems, so schedule time every day to stop, rest & practice meditation, walks & self hypnosis. Practice visualising or imagining a peaceful scene, take a few long deep belly breaths and notice the release of any tension as you go back to the scene. Practice this regularly.
Know you can get in touch easily with a professional if you continue to experience yourself and your life in anyway other than the way you desire. I can help you process what has been going on for you, come to your own realisations and give you the tools to create how you really want to be. You can get back on track as you off load past habitual ways of thinking and feeling and develop behaviours of success.
